I like women who hate,
women who insult,
get mad and shout
Those women who know they are fire
and know how to burn passionately
Men fear those women, mistrust them,
hey call them exaggerated and fanatics
because they fear the fire they can’t control
They say to women why burn like that?
Look, I can show you
you can be like an oven
look how useful you can be in that corner
not harming anyone, they say
their hand firmly on the knob
knowing they’re in control
to turn on or off, and regulate
They say fire has been controlled already
there’es no need to set ourselves on fire
why dance around a bonfire
there’s nothing to learn
nothing to discover
Depp inside they know
the fire they fear
will burn away this plastic model
they manufactured to feel gods
Like the gaze of God in Eden
reminds them of their own
In the art of personifying the “opposite gender”, one can find a million subtle ways in which we are trained to perform a gender role.
In this post, I will focus on two of them, spitting and walking, because they illustrate two dimensions of gender differences:
- Walking is an activity which men and women have in common, but execute in different ways, although that difference is usually invisible in our daily lives.
- Spitting, instead, is an activity assigned to the masculine gender exclusively. Spitting isn’t “ladylike”.
We will therefore analyze these two actions from the perspective of gender social roles and my own experience as a Drag King.
The way we are, the way we walk
One of the most consistent examples of behavior which is learned, but generally deemed as “natural”, is the way we walk.
It’s something we do every day, hardly noticing we do it in a special way.